Over the past few years,they have been stories of young people who were assaulted by close family members and they couldn’t talk to anyone. Young people at their teen age are confused and need clear guidance on different issues of life.
If young people know enough to ask a question , they deserve an age appropriate answer. Young people need honest answers too.
Parents are the most important source of sexuality education. You may not know but young people are willing to ask questions and get answers. The problem is that some of them do not know how to initiate conversation with their parents and some parents don’t know how to respond when kids initiate conversation. Here are some tips teenagers can use to initiate and engage their parents in conversation.
TIP 1: Think through what you want to talk about. Do you want information, to share your feelings, do you need help or do you just need a listening ear? Make sure you are certain of what you want to talk about.
TIP 2: Pick the right timing. Find the right time when both of you are free to listen and talk with one another.Wrong timing may cause misunderstanding of the case at hand or the listener may give hasty replies. Wrong timing may even make the parent not give attention to the child.
TIP 3: Talk Clearly: State your concerns clearly. You can use phrases like, “I am thinking about…., I am worried about….., Confused about…….” Say the best you can. As you talk, your thoughts and feelings become clearer.
TIP 4: Ask for what you want and what you expect from your parents too
TIP 5: LISTEN. Final step to good communication is listening. Listen to what your parents have to say and follow up on them. Good listening means you focus on the other person and try to understand what they are thinking and feeling. They should be clarity for communication to be complete.
Parents in responding to questions should convey positive sexual health attitudes through your words, tone of voice and facial expressions.